—— Full Time Stay at Home Dog Mom and Small Business Coach
I’m a born-and-raised country girl with various stints in more urban or just unusual settings like Thailand, Paris France, China and Tahiti, but always finding my way back to the open spaces.
One of the things I’m often asked, often by me, is “How did you get here? Is this where you want to be? Is this right?”
And for decades my answer, even to myself, was… “It’s ok… for now.”
It was just ‘ok, for now’, for far too long.
I’ve finally created a life where my answers to those last two questions is, ”Yeah, this is where I want to be… and yeah… it’s right.”
After many failed attempts at various jobs in numerous fields, and a lot of frustration with trying to fit into the mold of ‘employee’, trying to choose just one thing to be in life, I figured out that maybe that just wasn’t my path. It wasn’t the best use of my skills and creativity.
I’d love to say that I was unusual and special because I had so much potential and my brilliance was being wasted, but my feeling is that we are all likely wasting our lives trying to fit ourselves into a job description that limits our chances of expressing who we really are.
We bite our tongues in meetings because our opinions and ideas are not well-received if they fall over the lines of our job descriptions. We can’t pitch a marketing idea if our job is bookkeeping. We can’t suggest a new flavor of wine if our position is Webmaster.
We all are so much more than the few parts that are doing a single job.
We all have unusual combinations of interests and skills and this a strength, not a liability.
I had been indoctrinated into the commonly held belief that there was security in the regular 9-5. Having been through many ‘regular jobs’, I can say that there is no security working for someone else. There is not much working for yourself, either… but there are other benefits.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been insatiably curious, as so many people have, about the purpose of life. human potential. Why was ‘happiness’ deemed a shallow answer? Why and how did so many of us become indoctrinated into the belief that we had to leave a legacy? We had to accomplish something great. We had to do something important.
But maybe our personal happiness was something really important. Maybe doing something with satisfaction and at 100% was the legacy.
For some of us, building a multi-million dollar business that we leave to our kids and they leave to theirs, is the goal. If that goal gives you enormous satisfaction and enjoyment and you can’t wait to spend your day doing it, then bravo. You’ve arrived.
If building that exact same multi-million dollar business does not give you enormous satisfaction and bring you endless enjoyment… then you haven’t.
If having some kids and maintaining a house for your family puts a spring in your step, you’ve arrived. If those same kids and home doesn’t… then you haven’t.
Life is supposed to be filled with obstacles and challenges. It’s not supposed to be all roses and rainbows… it involves the thorns and thunderstorms, too.
Life is more than just a bunch of parts. Life is all the parts together.
I’m here to give you permission to make your happiness a priority. To give it the importance it deserves.
I think happiness and living at 100% and creating your own personal meaning is the biggest dream you can dream.
It’s the biggest dream I’ve ever had. And I’ve never felt as satisfied in my life as I do now.
I also believe that the more people who have this dream (self-fulfillment, making happiness their greatest priority), the more fulfilled the world is. It’s win-win situation.
So, I’m going to do my part with helping other people embrace this goal and then create a strategy to achieve it. We all need to be who we were meant to be. And if you don’t believe in predetermination, then we all need to be ALL we can be. This world works best with each of us living at 100%. I can help you get to your 100%.